I have heard a couple of people lately mention how their feelings of inadequacy are keeping them from doing something they want to be doing.
These two specific people have drive and confidence in so many areas, yet it was a time of rejection which made them feel this way. This begs me to question, why is a steady self-worth so difficult to obtain once we fear others are questioning our character or abilities? It takes so much spiritual nourishment to feed these parts of us that vie for affirmation or validation. I am included in this. I also go through a waxing and waning self-worth based on how well I perceive I’m doing at something, which I oftentimes base on someone else’s feedback of me.
So, why am I caring about someone else’s approval? And why do I need to be good at something to think I have value? It is so off-putting to know I associate performance with self-worth. This is something I’m digging into and will update on once I’ve figured out how to disassociate the two.
In my last article on self-worth, I delve into some ways to reframe thinking around poor self-worth. The scriptures I point to truly do fill me with the sentiment that I am precious in his sight and so valuable to Him. Truth bomb: I’m finding that what’s hard is sustaining the belief that I matter to me. Now, feelings of self-worthlessness is a marker of my bipolar 1, so I truly believe it is something I will deal with for the rest of my life. And that’s okay, because I don’t have to go through these ups and downs alone. I have the Lord to lean on, and I have His word that He’ll never leave me.
As I work through this issue in therapy, I’ll post back with some helpful tips on how to help with this, as I usually like to do. For now, I’ll be glad that I can pinpoint what it is I need to overcome.
I hope this post can help others at least be more self-aware when it comes their feelings around low self worth and inadequacy and maybe even highlight the underlying reason for it. It’s all a journey, guys.
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Do you deal with feeling inadequate at times? How do you get over that belief that you are unworthy?
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